Die For Love

Many people say they want love, but most of the time they are just talking! Love is not the feeling you get when you first begin the fresh new relationship. Its all good in the beginning of a relationship. That's when you can't wait to see the person after you just left them. Before you get in the house good- they already texted you. You smile ear to ear, before you look at your phone, because you knew it was him/her when you heard your phone bleep. When your at work, you think about something they said, and you laugh out loud, forgetting where you're at. That's the caterpillar stage my love! After that stage is over, you have to work at any relationship you get into. Love is a process! Remember the caterpillar dies! Once in that cocoon (in the mess, the development) the work begins.

 Relationships take work. Like the caterpillar- relationships go through stages. Most people are self centered, and only think about, "What I want, what I think, and how I feel." Never considering the perspective of the other person. Yes we can add up their wrongs they have done to us. I'm not speaking about wrongs, or rights. I'm talking about, "Why does that person think that way they do? Or Why does he/she choose the things they choose? "If we could take a deep breath and relax, before nagging, or pointing our fingers, it could avoid a lot of arguments. In other words if you die to yourself, you might find a new relationship. Just like the caterpillar dying to become a beautiful butterfly.  Men and women speak different languages, but after a while of being in a relationship we all try to shape the other person into the people we are (mini-me's). The truth is if someone was just like you, you wouldn't like him/her. We all need to celebrate our spouses uniqueness and stop complaining. The thing that bothers you the most about your spouse may not be his/her fault; It maybe there to teach you how to change some things in you! Love looks beyond faults, forgives, carries the wounded on it's shoulders, dies to revenge and self. Love is courageous, consistent, and is selfless!

John 3:16